Sometimes, younger siblings can’t help but get into their older siblings’ belongings.
This can be a HUGE issue when it comes to clothes, especially when the borrowed clothes are returned damaged.
Redditor Sporta_narres found themselves in a personal dilemma regarding their sister’s bad behavior, so they turned to the “Am I The A**Hole” (AITAH) subreddit for feedback.
Similar to AITA, the AITAH subReddit allows posters to ask for advice and post about ending relationships—both things that are banned on AITA. However, there are no required voting acronyms—only suggested ones—and no official final judgment declared.
They asked:
“AITAH for uninviting my sister to my 17th birthday party after she stole my prom dress and destroyed it?”
The original poster (OP) explained:
“So I have a younger sister, Bella, who is 15.”
“The best way to describe her would be as a brat, and a spoiled one at that.”
“She gets whatever, whenever, wherever she wants.”
“Good grades? New iPhone.”
“She fails a test?”
“Oh, she’s just stressed, let’s get her ice cream to make her feel a wee bit better.”
“Meanwhile, I have to work a part-time job at a cafe to buy my own things.”
“My senior prom is coming up.”
“I’ve been saving my tips for 3-4 months to buy this gorgeous silk vintage dress online.”
“It cost 250 bucks (and a whole lotta nerves).”
“It arrived last week, and it was literally perfect. “
“Having admired it, I put it into my closet so that Bella wouldn’t get her chubby little fingers on it.”
“Yesterday I came home from school and saw Bella in the kitchen, wearing MY DRESS.”
“She was making a stupid TikTok, the concept of which I actually never understood.”
“Like whats the benefit?”
“You’re basically being a clown in a digital circus.”
“Whatever.”
“So, there she was, dressed in my prom dress, which I worked my a** off for, holding a milkshake in her hands or some purple juice.”
“Wasnt my main focus at the moment.”
“Before I could even scream, she spun around, tripped, and spilled the entire glass of that purple juice all over the front of MY silk dress.”
“IT’S RUINED.”
“COMPLETELY AND ABSOLUTELY STAINED BECAUSE OF HER STUPID MANIA OF MAKING DUMBA** TIKTOKS!!!”
“I screamed.”
“Like, actually screamed.”
“I started crying immediately.”
“My mom ran in.”
“She saw the dress and saw me crying.”
“Instead of yelling at Bella, she told ME to calm down.”
“She said something in the lines of ‘Hey, calm down, stop crying. Bella just wanted to look pretty. We can dry it out and wash it off; it wasn’t her fault. Look, she is sad too about what happened.'”
“Bella wasnt sad, or maybe she was, a little bit.”
“She was looking at her phone, tears swelling, while constantly tapping and swiping.”
“The only thing that little brat was sad about was the ruined TikTok.”
“I told them that Bella is banned from my birthday dinner this weekend (we were arranging to go to a nice sushi place with family, where we usually go to big events cuz of the insane atmosphere, it’s like a garden-themed neon-lighted Japanese village).”
“I said that I don’t even wanna look at her, nor talk to her.”
“Like, the brat owes me 250 bucks and a f*cking therapy session.”
“I was saving up for this dress for like 4 months.”
“My dad stepped in and said that I am actually being the brat and that I was very vindictive and that this type of behavior is not appreciated in this family.”
“Yeah, but taking other people’s clothes without their consent and ruining them is, apparently.”
“And that I can’t exclude my sister from the family because of some clothes.”
“They said if Bella can’t come, they aren’t paying for the dinner at all.”
“I told them to cancel the dinner then because it wasn’t just fabric to me.”
“It was hours of hard work, sweat, burnt out nerves.”
“The worst thing is that Bella hasn’t even considered apologizing.”
“She just gives me a disgusted smug look like I’m the one who ruined her dress over a stupid a** TikTok.
“So, yeah.”
“It is what it is.”
“At least I’ve got my dignity, right?”
The OP was left to wonder:
“AITAH?”
Some Redditors weighed in by using the AITA voting acronyms:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided the OP was NOT the A**hole here.
“NTA. The sad reality is that your parents suck.”
“But the good news is, you’ll be able to grow up into so much more than your sister will ever manage.”
“It’s a small comfort now, but I know your life is going to be AMAZING real soon and you deserve every bit of it!”
“Your sister and/or parents do absolutely owe you that money, by the way.”
“But you’re never going to see it.”
“I hope you can find another dress for prom.”
“Your sister is the golden child, and you are the scapegoat, that will never change.”
“Get yourself free of them and go to college and have a good life without them.” ~ FeralBorg
“Do you have any other relatives?”
“If so, do they know about your parents’ behavior with you?”
“Maybe an intervention can be useful.”
“I’m sure they’ll say that you’re ‘venting your problems in public,’ but it’s not helping you.”
“On the other side, do you have a closer friend where you can leave your things (the ones you really love/need)?”
“Or buy a safe.”
“I know they are expensive as hell, but it could be useful.”
“NTA and be sure that your sister will suffer when she grows up.”
“The bicycle of consequences rarely got braces when the rock of life is closer.” ~ Electronic-Drink559
“It might be time for you to store anything valuable to you under lock and key.”
“A footlocker with a combo lock in your bedroom and a lock on the knob to your bedroom door.”
When your Mom starts whining, tell her it is because she is raising a young thief.” ~ CapableOutside8226
“Remind your mom she’s probably raising a future criminal, and the real world won’t be so nice to brat Bella when she finally makes it out, and mommy and daddy won’t be able to save her anymore.”
“I hope you’re able to go low contact with them in the future, they sound f**king miserable, and they can all be miserable together without you… lol.” ~ videogamekat
“I’m so sorry your parents are raising a spoiled brat.”
“And you probably already know this deep down, but she spilled that drink on purpose.”
“Sissy is in for a world of hurt if she tries this behavior out in the real world, where she, hopefully, will finally face real consequences.” ~ Worldly-Grade5439
“Try taking the dress to a bridal shop.”
“They have experience bringing dresses back to life.”
“Or they will know where to get it done.”
“Your family sucks!”
“Your sister is an a**hole.”
“When you turn 18, leave.”
“Get a room share, go to grandparents or an aunt or uncle, JUST GO!!”
“They see no value in you or your things.”
“I hate that for you, OP.”
“Good luck.”
“Contact the bridal shop and inquire about their restoration services.” ~ gigidiva13
“I came here to say this.”
“OP needs to be looking at community colleges (in the US, it can be free in some cases), get an appointment with your school counselor, and tell him or her all that’s going on.”
“The counselor will assist with FAFSA, explain different types of aid and loans, help you apply to colleges, and all the things – specifically, going on the assumption that you won’t be getting help from family.”
“To that end, the counselor can brainstorm other families who might possibly step up, practicalities like personal documentation, state medical insurance, and housing programs.”
“Connect you with the mental health resources and services you definitely need to take advantage of.”
“I’m so sorry, OP.”
“I know my input sounds very dry.”
“I don’t mean to sound cold, my heart breaks for you.”
“But I want the very best outcome for you under these stupid, shi**y circumstances, and you must have plans and all the support you can possibly get.”
“Let people help, let them love you, keep your head and your grades up, get solid part-time employment and save for a vehicle, pay for your phone and data plan, learn to navigate local transportation, hydrate, floss…”
“I know this is A LOT.”
“Overnight, everything has changed, and it’s sad and overwhelming.”
“But it’s one thing for Reddit to say ‘just throw your toxic family away’ and quite another to absorb just what that means.”
“Some very young people on this thread seem to think mom and dad are still going to support you after you cut them off, while you’re still dependent.”
“Gently- children, you can’t lob a grenade at your parents (no matter how well deserved) and think they’re going to take you to sushi.”
“Sending all my love, OP.”
“Holding your hand.” ~ Hot-Fishing9744
“You know I’m the guy who ALWAYS disagrees with Reddit and says Reddit overreacts to small things.”
“Their answer is ALWAYS to dump the other guy and move on.”
“But if everything you said is true, you might actually be justified in doing that to your own parents and your sister.”
“I was INFURIATED reading what you wrote.”
“I wish you success.”
“Never rely on them for anything, and start taking care of yourself.”
“There WILL be a day when they need your help, and that’s the day for you to tell them, ‘Oops, sorry! This sounds as important as my prom, but you’ll learn to compromise the way I did.'”
“The best revenge is for you to live a full and successful life.”
“Go get that revenge, girl!” ~ Dull-Ninja-7526
Reddit has your back, OP.
You deserve to be treated better than this.
Hopefully, the dress is salvageable.
Try to smile.
Good Luck.